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Man Shares Journey Of Living As Female For 25 Years Before Transition

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3 weeks ago

October 18, 2025

Tosin Odunlami, a Nigerian-born intersex advocate, has opened up about his journey of self-discovery, transition, and his ongoing fight to promote intersex visibility and inclusion in Nigeria.

In an interview released on Friday by The Podcast Network, Odunlami reflected on his childhood, his experience living 25 years as a female, and the challenges of navigating identity in a society that often misunderstands intersex persons.

Intersex is a term used to describe people who are born with physical or biological traits, such as chromosomes, hormones, or reproductive organs, that don’t fit the typical definitions of male or female bodies.

According to a landmark study by biologist Dr Anne Fausto-Sterling (2000) of Brown University, up to 1.7% of the global population is born with intersex traits.

However, later research by Dr Leonard Sax (2002) published in the Journal of Sex Research estimated a narrower range of about 0.018%, depending on which medical conditions are classified as intersex.

Despite these variations, both studies affirm that intersex variations are a natural part of human diversity, not disorders or abnormalities, a position also supported by the United Nations Free & Equal campaign (2019) and the World Health Organisation (WHO, 2022).

Tosin began by clarifying common misconceptions about gender identity. “Intersex persons are not transgender. Neither are they gay or lesbian,” he said. “Intersex means being born with biological variations, it could be internal, chromosomal, or genital.”

“It’s a privilege for me to speak about my experience. I discovered that I’m an intersex person at age 25. Basically, I lived all my life for 25 years as a female, and it wasn’t eas,” he said.

When asked whether he is medically capable of reproduction, Tosin confirmed that he can reproduce as a man, “Yes, because I’ve done some examinations.”

Born and raised in Nigeria, Odunlami recounted growing up under societal pressure to conform to the gender assigned at birth.

“You have to behave in the female way, And if you’re not doing all of that, the society and the community start looking at you in a certain way.”

He revealed that during puberty, he noticed bodily changes that made him question his identity, but fear and stigma kept him silent.

“I started seeing some changes in my body, and I was scared. I couldn’t talk to anyone because when you tell them this is what you’re seeing in your body, they decide to discriminate or tell you you’re taboo,” he said.

Odunlami shared how his mother discovered his condition and sought medical help. However, the doctors themselves were confused.

“The doctor did not even know who I am. They tried to confirm me to their ascribed gender and said they had to do surgery to cut off what they were seeing,” he recounted.

He described how his mother rejected the risky surgical option and instead turned to religious interventions.

“My mom took me to several churches; they gave me soaps and prayers, just to make me grow breasts,” he said, recalling years of internal struggle and isolation.

At university, he continued to live as a woman but in secrecy. “I lived with two females in the same room, and when we were dressing up, I shifted myself to the corner. I wore padded bras because I wanted to fit in,” he said.

Odunlami’s transition came after a medical consultation confirmed that his hormones were predominantly male.

“The doctor said my hormones are more male hormones. That was when I told the doctor, ‘Okay, I think I’m going to come to the male gender,’” he explained.

Speaking on how people reacted to his transition, he said, “Some were surprised, some were supportive, and some are still anxious about it. But I’m always open to share with them.”

On his sexual orientation, Odunlami said he is attracted to females. “I’m attracted to women, emotionally, mentally, and physically,” he said, clarifying that being intersex does not define his sexuality.

Speaking about his church community, he revealed how he came out to his pastor and congregation: “On a Sunday, he said I should come out and you know, it’s also a form of advocacy — educating people, mothers, adults, youths on all of this.”

He continued, “Although it was a shock to them, they were like, ‘No, Sister Esther?’ Because then I was ascribed a female gender, so my first name is Esther. They were saying, ‘What? Sister Esther? Are you a trans? Are you gay?’ They didn’t really understand the whole situation, even after I shared with them that this is me, I’m an intersex person.”

He added that although some members initially distanced themselves, others eventually accepted him.

“Some were like, ‘Don’t near my female daughter,’ and I was a children’s teacher, so I had to step back to see how they received the information. But later they were all open arms, they received me back, and I started teaching again.”

When asked whether being intersex makes one a member of the LGBTQIA+ community, Tosin clarified that intersex persons form part of the wider group while maintaining their distinct identity.

“The ‘I’ in the LGBTQIA, that’s intersex,” Tosin explained. “We can stand alone, and as well we cannot stand alone. We are part of the community because we work together in different ways, for programming, advocacy, and education. Sometimes, Intersex Nura even educates the LGBT community. So we are a community of one.”

Tosin, however, noted that being intersex does not automatically determine sexual orientation, “An intersex person does not necessarily identify as lesbian, gay, or bisexual,” they said. “All of that does not necessarily apply.”

Speaking further, Tosin said there is a growing intersex community in Nigeria that meets regularly for support and advocacy.

“We have intersex persons in different states across Nigeria. We hold monthly check-ins and community meetings. On October 26, we’ll celebrate Intersex Awareness Day, a day to celebrate our growth, resilience, and visibility,” Tosin added.

They also highlighted ongoing collaborations between Nigerian intersex advocates and global organisations, “There is international support,” Tosin noted.

“The Executive Director of Intersex Nigeria, Obioma, is part of the Intersex Alliance Movement globally, working to advance advocacy and programming. We also receive funding and support from international organisations for our work here in Nigeria.”

Reflecting on faith and acceptance, he described how his church community ultimately responded positively. “I had this peace, that I am living my full self,” he said.

Now an active intersex advocate, Odunlami continues to champion inclusion and awareness through public speaking and advocacy efforts. “It’s not a disability,” he affirmed again. “I’m a normal person like every other person.”
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PHOTOS: Low Turnout, Voter Apathy Mar Anambra Guber

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1 hour ago

November 8, 2025

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The November 8 Anambra State governorship election has been marred by low voters turn and apathy.

In Akwa, the state capital,
some tricycle riders were also seen going about their normal businesses, just as some business owners opened their shops for businesses.

In the state capital, accreditation of voters did not start in many polling units visited by our correspondent until about 9:00am.

At Polling Unit 009, Ward 06, Akwa South Local Government Area, our correspondent observed that accreditation started at about a few minutes past 9:00am with low turnout.

At Polling Unit 011, Ward 06, Akwa II, Akwa South Local Government Area, the Presiding Officer, Chiamaka Agbakoba,
told our correspondent that she started accreditation at about 9:15 am because “we were waiting for party agents to arrive, and more so there were not many voters on the ground.”

Salas Okosun, Presiding Officer, Polling Unit 018, Ward 06, Udeozo Primary School, Akwa South, said “we started accreditation exactly 9:am but voters have not been coming. As you can see, no one to capture, so we are still waiting, once it’s 2:30pm, we are done.”

Olusola Abdulsalam, Presiding Officer, Polling 017, Ward 06, Akwa II, Akwa South, said “as at 10:08, we have captured 15 voters. They have been coming out little by little.”

Presiding Officer, Polling Unit 023, Ward 06, Akwa II, Akwa South Local Government Area, Mercy Ezeah, said “we have captured 23 voters as at 10:37am, out of the total of 178 voters we are expecting.”

The narrative was however different in Polling Unit 007, Ward 05, as voters turned out to cast their ballots at the unit.

Speaking to our correspondent, a voter, Anene Chukwudezie, lamented that he was disenfranchised because INEC did not print his Permanent Voter Card.

He said: “I cannot vote for the candidate of my choice because INEC did not print my PVC. And it is not me alone, over 30% of voters in Ward 04, Akwa South have this same problem, with my findings, so they cannot vote. And this is why some of our people decide to sit at home.”

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Okpebholo’s One Year Performance Outshines Some governors’ 8 Yrs, Says Idahosa

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13 hours ago

November 8, 2025

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The deputy governor of Edo state, Rt. Hon. Dennis Idahosa says Governor Monday Okpebholo’s performance within his first year in office surpasses some state governors achievements in eight years of office.

In a statement by his Chief Press Secretary, Mr Friday Aghedo, the deputy governor was quoted to have said this when he played host to delegation of Esan Daughters Development Initiative of Edo State in his office on Thursday.

He assured that Okpebholo’s administration has just taken off, adding that with the support of the people, Edo will record remarkable achievements in few months to come.

Idahosa noted that with his SHINE Agenda, Okpebholo is poised to entrench good governance across the nook and cranny of the state.

He particularly noted that Okpebholo policies are people centric.

While noting that the unity of the people remains the governor’s primary concern, Idahosa reeled out names of Esan extraction who made impact on Esan land and Edo State in general.

According to him, “Distinguished Senator Monday Okpebholo, to me, is God’s gift to Esan land,” and, “the entire Edo State people are happy with him.”

The President, Esan Daughters Development Initiative of Edo State, Mrs. Kate Osaro commended Idahosa for his complementary role to Okpebholo.

According to her, their complementary roles have ensured peace reign in the state and solicited for its sustainability.

In related vein, Idahosa received and congratulated Management, Staff and Students of “Our Lady of Mercy Nursery and Basic School” on their forthcoming school’s 50th anniversary.

He appreciated the school’s management for helping to shape and impact the lives of students and society.

He deemed it an honour having the organizing committee lead pupils of the school to his office.

He encouraged them (Pupils) to aspire to greater heights by participating in politics to becoming future governors and deputy governors of the state.”

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#AnambraDecides: Transport Unions Endorsement Of Soludo Could Undermine Perceptions Of Neutrality — KDI

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13 hours ago

November 8, 2025

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The Kimpact Development Initiative (KDI), has expressed concern that the endorsement of governor Charles Soludo of Anambra State by the Joint Transporter Forum could undermine perceptions of neutrality in the November 8 governorship election, owing to the role they play in conveying sensitive and non-sensitive materials during elections.

KDI said since INEC relies heavily on these unions —NURTW, RTEAN, Keke, Okada, and Bus Unions — for material transportation, their partisan alignment could undermine perceptions of neutrality, risk delays, and erode public confidence in the process.

Bukola Idowu, Executive Director, expressed the organisation’s concern at a pre-election briefing held in Akwa on Friday.

“The endorsement of the incumbent governor by the Joint Transporter Forum, comprising NURTW, RTEAN, Keke, Okada, and Bus Unions, raises a significant logistical red flag,” KDI worries.

INEC’s Preparedness

The KDI, while noting that INEC has largely demonstrated logistical readiness, some operational gaps persist.

“KDI’s comparative analysis of INEC’s preparedness for the 2025 Anambra Governorship Election against the 2024 Ondo Off-Cycle Election reveals a mixed outlook on operational readiness.

“The training of ad-hoc officials concluded only on November 6, 2025, two days before the election, compared to a timelier completion in Ondo 2024 left no room for mock drills or refresher sessions, limiting INEC’s ability to evaluate the competence of ad-hoc personnel and replace unfit or unavailable staff ahead of election day.”

The CSO, however, commended INEC for the “continuous engagement with stakeholders and improvements in technology usage, particularly through the BVAS and IREV platforms,” saying that it “remains positive indicators that, if effectively managed, can mitigate these risks and enhance the credibility of the process.”

Pre-election Observation, Warning

KDI observed that voter turnout in Anambra has fallen by over 58% in the last eight years, attributing this decline to insecurity, logistical and geographical challenges, warning that “special attention must then be paid to these areas lest Anambra risks experiencing another historically low voter turnout in tomorrow’s governorship election.

“Despite consistent growth in voter registration.It will appear that voter turnout is falling at the same rate at which voter registration was growing. This means that while more citizens are registering to vote, fewer are turning out on election day, a troubling trend that points to deepening voter apathy and declining trust in the electoral process.”

On intolerance during election, KDI said while the overall security risk across the state remains moderate, several localized flashpoints persist in areas historically prone to electoral tension, political rivalry, and voter intimidation.

“The analysis identifies Aguata and Ihiala as severe-risk areas, with a high likelihood of violence or disruption on election day.

“Nnewi North, Nnewi South, and Ogbaru are categorized as high-risk LGAs, while the remaining local governments are assessed as being at a moderate risk level.

“In practical terms, this means that LGAs classified as severe or high risk face a greater probability of experiencing election-related disturbances, ranging from logistical delays and voter suppression to violent clashes, unless proactive measures are taken.

“Conversely, moderate-risk areas could be relatively peaceful, provided preventive actions are maintained and early warning signals are properly addressed.”

KDI, therefore, urged security agencies to uphold professionalism, neutrality, and restraint in their election-day operations.

“Security deployments should prioritize visible but non-intimidating presence in identified flashpoints, timely intelligence sharing, and rapid response coordination to ensure the safety of voters, election officials, and materials across all 21 LGAs,” KDI noted.

KDI, however, expressed optimism of a largely peaceful election, just as it emphasized that the “credibility of the process will depend on timely deployment, transparent procedures, and restraint by political actors and their supporters.”

The CSO also called on eligible voters to come out peacefully, exercise their civic rights, and resist any attempt to disrupt the process or sell their votes.